Raising Empathy

The title should be "Raising Empathy: 101 ways to deal with a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico". Yup baby, this is not just a match, it is a WHITE PRIDE!! The ideal way is to apply a don't ask, don't bother rule. But some people got no clue how to treat a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico right. Here, i will kindly inform you how!

First of all people, y'all need to realize that this is important for her. THIS MATCH IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT. Never asking why, because everyone has different interest. I, my self, never come and tell someone in the face "Oh, so one of your cat just died? Move on, you have hundreds of cats. It's just a cat anyway." Nope, my friend, i don't like cat, i don't see why people should crying a river for a cat. But i know how to behave. Even though you don't understand, it's very easy to simply say: "Deepest condolences, buddy. His soul will remains with us".

Nah if you already understand the first rule. I will tell you a step by step to do things right.

If you're happened to be a Father of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico, you don't come from Shalat Subuh at Masjid and ask "How was the match?" "Who won?" Then you turn on the tv and watch sport news. No effing way! No effing way! -1000 for your empathy.

If you're happened to be a Mother of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico, you don't force her to bring Kacang Madu to be offered to your friend like there's no tomorrow. What were you thinking? Just leave her alone!

If you're happened to be a Sister of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You make sure that she will always 1Km away from any kind of newspaper, silly people, and sport news. You make sure her Real Madrid poster sticks properly at her wall. You make sure her jerseys folded well. You make sure that you're not about to borrow her bag. After you a hundred percent sure, you can then GTFO in peace.

If you're happened to be a boyfriend of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. Get real boy! She doesn't want to talk to anyone. She doesn't want you to pick her up. She doesn't want you to see her right now. And moreover, she doesn't need a thousand of PING!!! from you. And you know what even worse? A BBM display picture with the-opposing-team-who-shall-not-be-named holding trophy. Check your self!

If you're happened to be a friend of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You better give her a bunch of tissues, pillow and blanket, feed her with grapes and milk. The last thing you can do is to tease her, seriously. Slap your face, look at your choice. Silent has never been a better choice before.

If you're happened to be a workmate of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You are the worst, my friend. Y'all the last ones she expect to see but because there's something called life and responsibility you become the first ones she sees in the morning. I suggest you to act like nothing has ever happened. I warn you, never, NEVER EVER, laughing like mad in front of her and say "HAHAHA, MADRID KALAH NI YEE". You have no idea what you've done. You dig your own grave!

If you're happened to be a head of HRD in an office of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You don't dare punish her because she came late. All you have to do is: Raise her paycheck, give her an early THR, and let her come home at 12pm so she can rest her head out. You can also ask a driver to drive her home, that will be an added point.

If you're happened to be some random people at Angkot which contain a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You don't mention MES*I's name. You just don't. And you don't ask why!! A disgrace for all humankind.

If you're happened to be cule-family-members-incorporated-in-a-BBM-group with a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. Y'all grade E in term of emphaty. Why is it necessary to bashing around about the match when you KNOW EXACTLY that one of your family is heartbroken? Have it ever crossed your mind that maybe, just maybe, she is crying for hours of it?

If you're happened to be a pet of a-Madridista-who-had-just-lost-at-a-fuckin-clasico. You sit in the corner, shut the f**k up. Not crying for food nor pee. And stay there until she tells you to move.

ROTFLMAO in real life right now. Do you enjoy it? Because i do. I'm sorry, this post doesn't aim to anybody. All events just a make up story (a little based on real life, a little tho). I'm just releasing my tension and stress. I hate you Barfa so much right now. You lucky bi**hes. Enjoy your trophy because it's the only one you'll get this season.

I'm proud of my boys, we had fought till the end last night. We will have a good season ahead darlings. In Mou we trust.

Now,would you excuse me. I'm going to get back in the corner and cry.

Perplexity

I really hate being in doubt, yet i doubt much lately. That thing is killing me. I don't know how to react to it. It is closer and closer, time won't go back. People said when in doubt, don't do it. But then i'm stepping in to another doubt: to trust that saying or not. What an abstract mind human can have? I don't want to regret anything later like i did now. Yes, i admit it. I did regret that thing i've done, i've chosen in 9/8. All i need was wait and calm my self then everything would be ok. But i followed my ego. And things getting more complicated. I have this admittedly insane idea which need all bravery left in my self. But then again, i'm still in doubt..

Unexpected Climate Change

A : Look, that's Yesi!

B : Yesi who?

A : Yesi the lecturer!

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(hahahaha garing parah.)

So, people.. Semester ini saya dikasih jam ngajar. Mata kuliah yang di-plot tidak lain dan tidak bukan adalah *drumroll* Kecakapan Personal! Looks like God wants me to stay close with everything related to interpersonal communication and co. I imagine he says : "you love this subject, no?" "nah, here have some more!". -__-!!

Actually, i have some kind of bond with Interpersonal Communication (IC). From the time i knew that this subject is exist in communication studies, i know i'll love it. I want to know more about this. Coincidentally, my interpersonal comm lecturer is one of my fav lecturer too and she taught us with ~style. And we all know (we all? maksudnya saya, tuhan sama tembok hihi) skripsi saya juga akhirnya mengangkat tentang IC.

The thing is, belum juga dimulai mengajar Kecakapan Personal, saya sudah bermasalah dengan "Kecakapan Personal" saya. I keep questioning, do i have a lecturer quality? Am i a lecturer material? Yes, here comes "that" Echy again. I need to get rid of this feeling, have my chin up, and just do it. A person who has issue with self confidence and self esteem can't teach other people about personal skills. Need to write this in my mind again, and again, and again....

Guisee, i really hope i can transmit the knowledge well!! Repeat after me:

Break a leg, E!!!

Obligatory Once in a Month Friday Post..

Heiyyaa there! such a pretty Friday here..

There's a lot of story i want to share. But before we go far to happy stories such as my sister's 20th birthday. I want to put my thought about something that happened just now.

Someone makes me rage this morning by saying that my grey blouse doesn't match with red cardigan i am wearing. She did it in such a way like she is a fashion expert perfected with her sardonic smile and head shake. Excuse me!! Who the hell are you? New Emma Watson? Nope, so better shut up. This person can't leave a day by not hurting my heart or whoever poor soul she has met. It is not the first time she threw sharp words without thinking about other people's feeling. This red cardigan scene is not the point. But this certain person is. Why couldn't she learn that whatever comes out her mouth is always bring down people. I think she is old enough to understand that there is manner in expressing opinion! Actually i really don't care of what she's doing as long as it doesn't ruin my mood. But she always managed to hurt me and i can't take it EVERY SINGLE DAY!!

Another annoying thing: So, another someone asked me to participate in a Blog competition. This competition held by Lampung Government as a part of Lampung Fair 2011. The rule is about put a writing in our blog about a theme that they had specified before. At first i was interested to take part because they would give an ipad for the winner, but after i read the theme i feel kinda ~meh. I really hate anything related to government body or whatever they did to ~supposedly bring forward our town. I don't need to elaborate why i hate them, because i think i've written a post about this before. But the point is i don't want to put something that i don't feel fun writing it. Why should i? My blog has to represent my exact thought, right? Not something commercial or based on hypocrisy. I don't want people to force me to follow the competition and tell me that this is just a competition where i could make a story up. Hell to the no. No way! I followed a contest involving my blog before and i will do it again as long as i love the topic and feel fun doing it. Period.

Whoosaaaahh.. Inhale.. Exhale.. Ok, i'm done with my resentment. Hehe..

Okay, nexttt..

My pretty little sister (which is not little anymore btw) just had her 20th birthday at July 7th 2011. We've made a surprise for her including cakes and presents. But honestly, that was awkwardly fun. Because i've known that she was expecting the whole things and couldn't sleep. :D Her boyfriend, Hatta, gave him a blackberry that she wanted for looong time, we wanted to give it to her in style but hadn't plan it well. It became antiklimaks at the end of the day. But at least i've made a cute surprise that she didn't expect. When she opened her blackberry messenger for the first time, she found out that some of her friends has been added to her contact list and surprisingly almost all of them using the same display picture. This one :

Hehe..

Here's pictures of the birthday girl:

And her delizz cake:

another cute cake from her friends:

Ehm, what else huh? My daily life is still boring as before because it only consist of non stop working. New season still hasn't begin yet but yay! for the preseason. We have signed some new player like Nuri Sahin, Hamit Altintop, Jose Callejon, Raphael Varane, and Fabio Coentrão. I will start to love this new merengues and i believe it won't be too hard because the likes of Nuri Sahin and Raphael varane are lovable, no? Lately i really love listening to Christina Perri's songs. She has a great voice. Strongly recommended! Also, i found out that watching the Kardashians family is such a fun way to release tension and stress.. hehe..

Last, I want to say hi to new readers of this blog because i know there are some :P.

Here, have my smile :D

Have a good day!!

1001 Ways To Be Happy Part.1

At my office, friday break time is held at 11.30 am to 13.30 pm. For us girls that's a lot of time to be wasted for lunch only. So, some girls are spend it to go to mall, have a lunch a little far away, etc. But i like to have my friday break with my own way which is stay at my desk :D. Why? Because that time everyone isn't around so i can play songs loudly at my computer and, ehm, sing a long also loudly. Hehe.. I really love it.. A friend of mine at office once asked me: Don't you feel bored being the only one at office while other people are having fun with their free time? I just smiled from ear to ear and said: I'm having fun too, just so you know.. hehehehe..

Maaf, numpang curhat..

Pengen nulis. Banget. Pengen cerita banyak. Pengen nge-post. Pengen ngisi tumblr. Pengen bikin cerpen, cerbung, atau novel sekalian. Tapi ntah kapan. Sekalinya ketemu weekend cucian numpuk, setrikaan menggunung, kamar kayak kapal pecah, buku banyak yang belum dibaca, tontonan bagus-bagus, belum lagi kalau harus menjalankan tugas sebagai pacar yang baik, kakak yang baik, adik yang baik, anak yang baik, teman yang baik, tante yang baik. Eh, gak kerasa udah hari senin lagi, batal deh menuangkan ide-ide yang udah numpuk di kepala. Kadang-kadang bisa nge-post kalau lagi di kantor, itu juga kalau kerjaan lagi gak numpuk di meja (which is jarang banget).

Yah sekedar brief news, saat ini Liga-liga Eropa libur :'(, kalau pulang kerja capek biasanya tetap excited karena midweek atau weekend ada pertandingan sepakbola. Sekarang kalau capek ya capek aja gak ada obatnya.. huhu.. Penawar lelah buat aku cuma ada 2: Sepakbola dan Anak Kecil. Tapi ketemu Ibas udah jarang. Kadang-kadang kalau lagi beruntung bisa ketemu anaknya temen2 kantor, tapi gak cukup :'( (maybe i need to have one :P).

Yang jelas aku baru menemukan lagi pelajaran hidup. Bahwa di dunia kerja sangat sulit mencari sahabat sejati. Batas antara kawan dan lawan remang-remang. Boleh berteman tapi jangan berharap mereka selalu ada, selalu mendukung, selalu menginginkan yang terbaik untukmu. Kembali lah ke sahabat-sahabatmu di luar lingkungan kerja. Sahabat-sahabat yang sudah ada sejak lama. Yang ada di masa-masa paling sulit hidupmu dan tentu ada juga di saat-saat bahagiamu. Mereka itu sahabatmu, bukan orang-orang yang kamu temui setiap hari.

Orang-orang itu, yang 8 to 5 bersamamu, walaupun gak semuanya berniat jahat tapi lingkungan, situasi, dan kondisi yang membuat setiap individu harus berusaha sendiri menjaga dirinya baik-baik kalau mau survive di dunia kerja. Haha.. terdengar menakut-nakuti ya? Tapi itu terjadi, so hati-hati..

6 bulan yang lalu aku berpikir bahwa hubungan interpersonal itu bisa dipercaya. Tahap berkenalan-bertegur sapa-saling gali informasi-saling curhat-merasa dekat-saling dukung akhirnya akan lives happily ever after. Ternyata tidak, di dalamnya gak ada faith, gak ada believe, gak ada love. Butuh banyak hal disamping pertemuan setiap hari untuk membuat dua orang individu saling mengenal dan mempercayai.

Sekarang aku gak mau banyak berharap, aku akan nice sama semua orang. Aku akan bantu kalau mereka butuh pertolongan tapi aku gak mengharapkan persahabatan, itu too much to ask. Keluargaku dan teman-teman sejatiku, mereka lebih butuh perhatian dan kasih sayangku. :))

What I've Learned From Life

Humans are not to be trusted. Gak peduli seberapa dekat kamu dengan mereka, seberapa lama kamu bersama mereka, seberapa baik mereka terlihat, seperti apapun penampilan mereka, entah berjilbab besar, preman, wajah polos, orang kaya, orang miskin, pendidikan tinggi, gak berpendidikan, atau apapun. I repeat: apapun. Never reveal yourself too much. Trust Allah SWT instead.